As the New Year begins, many people find themselves reflecting on the past year to help identify things they may want to do, or do differently, in 2009. The changes people tend to focus on reflect alternatives for which they are familiar. For example, we may see someone who is physically fit and choose to pursue an exercise regimen. But, what can we do when we lack awareness of issues or alternatives? Why not turn to the big screen?

Movies are remarkably accurate in the experiences, hopes, and fears they depict. They are often able to share perspectives and get people thinking about topics they might otherwise overlook or avoid. Two examples are The Curious Case of Benjamin Button (2008), which debuted on Christmas Day, and the Bucket List (2007).

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button is a story about of a man who ages backwards, while the Bucket List is the story of two men, both dying of cancer, and the adventures they have as they complete their to-do lists before they die. Both movies are powerful and will cause you to stop and reflect about life.

In an interview with the Today Show’s Ann Curry on December 19, Brad Pitt, who stars as Benjamin Button, commented that one of the things people tend to avoid most is accepting life as finite. During the interview, he mentioned a friend who worked at a hospice and who said of his patients, “In their last days they never focus on accomplishments…, but rather they spoke about family and regrets.”

“Regardless of age or health status, we encourage people to give consideration to their bucket list and the things they would most regret if life was cut short,” said Tibi Ellis, president of Home Helpers. It may be a list of adventures, sharing heartfelt words of appreciation and love, or something else.

The point is if you do not know where you are going, it is guaranteed that you will never get there. Likewise, if you are not purposeful about the things you want to do, or do differently, chances are few things will change.

“At Home Helpers, we find people who need assistance with daily living activities are often the ones who most appreciate the gift of life,” said Tibi. She added, “They are often the ones who focus more on what they have, instead of what they do not have.”

The story of Alfred Noble demonstrates the point about being purposeful. As historians recount it, when his brother Ludwig died, the newspaper mistakenly ran Alfred’s obituary instead. When he read what was said about him, he was filled with regret and, as a result, made sudden and significant changes in his life.

Albert is now best known for the Noble Peace Prize. While few may have the chance to make such a significant mark on history, we all have the chance to be the person we might have been. If you have not already seen it, you might start the New Year off by watching the Curious Case of Benjamin Button, reflecting on life, and making purposeful choices to minimize your regrets. Happy New Year.